The Lenny Interview: Four Women Who Fled Syria


Survivors of an untelevised war share their stories of struggle and hope.

Americans are often introduced to women in conflict through two media tropes. They are shown as victimized and under siege, damsels beyond distress waiting to be rescued. Or women are fetishized in ubiquitous slide shows of rebel fighters in the Colombian jungle and Kurdish fighters in Syria and Iraq as gun-wielding warrior princesses. They rock camouflage. They’re hot. And they will kick your ass.

But while reporting on the Middle East for the past five years, especially witnessing the Syrian refugee crisis, I’ve met countless women outside those manufactured optics. They are on the frontlines of a long, untelevised war, in which the warriors are unsung, the bad guy is often amorphous, and solutions are merely the best of several bad options. There usually aren’t guns. And rarely are there cinematic rescues. Often there are only quiet moments of protracted struggle, of intermittent hope, that when strung together form a life.

Syrian refugee women are survivors of a war that has, by some estimates, killed up to 470,000 people, injured 1.88 million, and created the worst humanitarian crisis in modern history. More than half of Syria’s population is now displaced. In other words, the combined populations of New York City, Boston, Washington, DC, and Chicago are scattered, unable to go home anytime soon — if ever.

Many have lost not just their homes, but also their husbands and sometimes even their children. Some have now become the heads of their households, their roles drastically changed, defying a cultural norm in which men are the sole breadwinners.

“If this war is ever won, it will be won by women,” a widowed 31-year-old woman told me two years ago in Zaatari Refugee Camp, Jordan’s mini-city of 80,000 Syrian refugees.

Here are some of their stories.

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